Psychologists Özlem Ayduk and Ethan Kross (from UC Berkeley and University of Michigan, respectively) have conducted some powerful research on what happens when we instead replay those negative experiences from a self-distanced, third-person perspective (the video camera in the corner or the fly on the wall perspective). Instead of seeing through our own eyes and replaying that situation, we imagine how a video camera would have seen it, so we would be outside of our body watching both ourselves and our boss.